I got stung by a bee yesterday, but that’s not the story I want
to tell.
The girls were finishing up in the shower and the Bombshell
was complaining. About something. Moaning that it hurt. I think the Mop looked
at her strangely. That hurts apparently.
So I mentioned that I got stung by a bee, right in the
middle of my back and I hadn’t felt the need to complain and cry (though I DID
rush to school, pulling my clothes off asking friends to pull out the stinger).
The Bombshell said ‘I remember I got stung by a bee once. It
really hurt.’
‘That’s right,’ I said. ‘It was at the zoo, and the bee got
caught in your hair.’
With my hand I made a little bee and buzzed it into her
neck, where I playfully ‘stung’ her.
She slapped my hand away and looked me in the eye.
‘That is my private place and you shouldn’t touch me,’ she
told me sternly.
I was taken aback. She’s almost six and I have been teaching
her about private parts of our body. Anything that is covered by a swim suit, I
have taught her, is her private body. Ditto for boys.
I didn’t realise though that she was wearing one of these.
Gently I said, ‘that’s not really a private place though, is
it? Your neck...’
She paused. ‘Maybe not, but it is sensitive skin and I don’t
think you should touch it without asking.’
A little part of me was mortified (she’s not even six!), but
the predominant emotion was admiration that she was so clear on what she
wanted. I was proud that she was protective of her body and prayed silently she
was still as protective, say, at the age of sixteen.
With that she stormed off to her bedroom, where I found her
ten minutes later, completely naked, legs splayed everywhere as she sprawled on
the couch reading a book.
Clearly, I still have some lessons to teach. Luckily, I also
still have time.
I just had to click through to the Chinese beach link. I lived in a Chinese beach resort town for a year, and I can imagine that beach covered in people with those masks on. I saw the strangest combinations when I was there. This must be a very new craze though, as I was back there last year and didn't see anyone wearing that style of very fetching head gear.
ReplyDeleteGlad to hear your daughter is protective of her body, and also embraces nudity!
Thanks Mary,
Deletedespite all the sunshine in Australia, I am hoping the 'face-kini' craze doesn't take hold here. Maybe in a few years time though, it will be as common as 'no hat no play'.
As for the Bombshell, she seems to be going through a 'look but don't touch' phase. Again, I'm hoping that by 16 she sorts it out...
cheers